Welcome back to advice session. A series here on Anything Goes where you send in your current

dilemmas or anything you want advice on and then I give you my unprofessional advice.

And today's topic is friendship, but more specifically, situations in friendship where it's unclear

if you're in the wrong. Now, I don't love pointing fingers in arguments, even when someone

deserves to have a finger pointed at them. I don't love pointing fingers in arguments, even when someone deserves to have a finger pointed at them.

I don't love that style of communication. I don't love that style of argument because I find that

it's not optimal for growth. I feel like when everyone involved in a conversation, a confrontation, approaches it in a humane,

kind, I guess not kind, but like mature way, I think it creates an environment where everyone's

guards are down so that growth can happen. When people start pointing fingers,

people start locking up and their walls come up. So I don't love pointing fingers. However,

when there is some sort of challenge in a friendship, I do think it can be helpful to reflect inwardly and figure out what role you play

in the challenge, in the conflict. I think pointing the finger inward can be incredibly helpful.

And I was shocked at how many people were struggling with a similar dilemma in friendship,

because I was able to gather multiple dilemmas of yours about a very similar challenge,

which is, am I in the wrong? That question, hey, this is what's going on. Am I in the wrong?

But upon reflecting on my own life, I was like, wow, I actually asked myself that all the time too. I just, I don't know,

I never thought of it as like a common channel. Well, no, I mean, it is a common child. I don't

know. I just, I was shocked at how many of you were struggling with this all at the same time in completely different

situations in friendship. But this is just, it's more of a challenge in friendship than I guess

I had in the forefront of my mind. You know what I mean? The dilemma of, am I in the wrong?

But I think asking that question is incredibly important and useful.

So without further ado, let's get into it. I briefly interrupt this episode to let you know that

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