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Hi, this is Janet Lansbury. Welcome to Unruffled. Today I'm going to talk about

whining. Fun fact about whining. Well actually there's nothing fun about whining, let's be honest, but it's interesting that I guess children whine in every language.

So if your child is whining, you're definitely not alone.

No matter where you live, it's all over the world.

And we love it, right?

No, we don't.

And I have some specific questions, very short questions that I received on

Instagram about whining, but I want to cover it a little more broadly at first and

offer some perspective because what really matters in this and all situations with children is our perspective on it.

How we're perceiving whining in this case, what it means, our role in it, that will dictate how we respond.

So when we work on perceptions and really consider them, maybe daydream about them, or as I sometimes recommend, see movies in your head about these situations from that perspective, then we're free.

We don't need to try to chase down different strategies and get scripts and memorize them.

We can come into the situation with confidence as ourselves and deal.

So why is whining so obnoxious? Why is it so challenging for us?

I believe the main reason is that it's easy for us to be under the

impression that we're supposed to do something about whining.

We're supposed to fix it.

This is a problem in our face, right?

And it even sounds like it.

It sounds like a siren.

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