When You Outgrow the Woman Who Got You Here: Quietly Becoming THAT Bitch

Style Your Mind Podcast

Cara Alwill

Girlboss, Confidence, Selfimprovement, Positivethoughts, Education, Self-improvement, Personaldevelopment, Raiseyourvibration, Bosslady, Motivation, Girlpower, Lifecoach, Entrepreneurship, Empoweringwomen, Liveyourbestlife, Mindfulness, Selfhelp, Manifestation, Business, Inspiration, Inspiring

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🗓️ 22 May 2025

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

There comes a time in every woman's life where the version of her that built everything no longer fits. She doesn't recognize herself anymore. She's brand new. And that scares the hell out of her.

In today's episode, we're talking about the sacred art of reinvention - but the messy, unglamorous middle part that can make you feel like you've lost your mind. The in-between, where you're not who you were, but you're still figuring out who you want to be. It's the part nobody else talks about, but it's also the part where the magic unfolds.

We're talking soft power. Softness as strategy. And what it looks like to quietly become that bitch.

Grab a notebook for this one, I'm sharing lots of journal prompts + things to think about!

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0:00.0	Hi, guys. Welcome back to the show. You were listening to Kara says it all, the podcast where nothing is off limits. Everything is real. Think of this as part journal, part sermon, part late night voice note from your most unhinged, but like kind of wise friend. Anyway, let's get into it.
0:23.3	Okay, I want to talk about identity today. I want to talk about becoming the next level version of yourself and all of the shit
0:30.0	nobody talks about, all of the unglamorous stuff that goes along with that process.
0:35.9	I think that the personal development world does a really good job
0:39.3	at romanticizing like, oh, I am now this woman and I'm becoming this person. And I get it because
0:46.8	it's really exciting to evolve. And we all want to become the best version of ourselves. But
0:51.5	what happens in that middle ground, in that weird void, that period of time
0:58.3	where you know that you're saying goodbye to the past version of yourself? You're killing that
1:02.4	version of yourself often. You're maybe even like grieving her a little bit. But you haven't
1:08.0	quite met the new version of you, right?
1:11.4	The evolved version, the woman you're becoming.
1:13.9	So what happens in that middle period?
1:16.6	Like I want to get into all of it because I have so many thoughts on this.
1:20.0	And if this is resonating, I hope that this episode makes you feel less crazy.
1:25.4	Because I think there's like a level of crazy that comes along with shifting, like in shifting
1:32.2	your identity and the way you see yourself and the way people see you and a lot of stuff.
1:37.1	So there was a version of me, you may know her, who built everything she had from a place of fire and sometimes a little chaos.
1:50.2	And she really pushed for everything.
1:53.4	She didn't wait for permission.
1:55.2	She didn't wait to be invited to a table, right?
1:58.9	She built the fucking house.
2:00.0	She made her own rules.
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