These are my personal opinions.

Always See good professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

This may disappoint some people, and I apologize in advance if it does if you are listening right now

Don't worry it may not disappoint you, but it might disappoint some people listening and that is when you love someone and

you use love as the reason to continue a relationship instead of considering all the negatives

that the other person may have. If you choose not to include the negatives in your criteria for love

and you base staying together and your happiness and longevity, on just love, then A, you might miss something that you need

to address that would deteriorate the relationship anyway, and B, you may inadvertently enable bad behavior.

And I have to be very careful about what I say here because if you are the victim of somebody else's bad behavior, I don't want to say that you're causing it.

I do want to give you a heads up.

If you don't address it, then the other person may think it's okay to

continue doing it. One of the most common questions that I get, especially on my love and abuse podcast, is if they loved me, why would they hurt me?

When it comes to emotionally abusive behavior, that's a very common question.

If you loved me, why would you hurt me?

I don't get it.

And this is usually the question they get after the emotionally abusive person

actually starts healing.

Yes, it's possible.

I see it a lot.

It requires a huge wake-up call typically.

And that wake-up call is usually the other person saying that's it I've had enough

I'm done if you don't stop I'm out of here or you better stop or else something along

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