These are my personal opinions.

Always Seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

Well, this is a tough, this is a tough one. I received a message from someone who says

they were in a relationship with somebody for over 10 years and that person cheated on them multiple times

with multiple people.

They broke up and the person who wrote to me didn't take the breakup well, saying that I felt like I lost it all when we tried going our separate ways, but that didn't go well, and I'm still living with him, even though he has told me he no longer wants to be with me.

So they are living together and it's been a couple years since the actual breakup

and they still feel stuck and have unresolved feelings.

And their question, which surprised me a little bit,

said, how can I remain patient through this process?

So this isn't the main topic of today's episode, but I wanted to get this out of the way. I don't even know if I have a good answer because I probably need more information even though it sounds like I have all the information I need from what you shared

But your question is how can I remain patient through this process? So my question is what is the process? What is the process

you're going through? Patience for what? What's going to happen? Are you waiting to leave? Are you saving money? Are you making an arrangement to leave? Or are you waiting for him to change his mind? Are you making an arrangement to leave? Or are you waiting for him to change his mind?

That's the one piece of information I don't have and why it's difficult to answer the question,

how can you remain patient through this process?

Because I don't know the process you're referring to.

My fear is you're waiting for him to do something different, or you're waiting for him to change his mind or say

something to you. That's my fear because if you wait for someone else to change, you could wait indefinitely, forever.

Because they may never change.

If someone doesn't change, you wait forever. It's a word that doesn't really apply but you know

forever is forever and ever and ever that doesn't really apply but if you say it, if you speak it, like this isn't going to change ever, it will be this way forever.

If you say that to yourself, this is how I make decisions when I need to know something, I need clarity, I'll say to myself, this will never change. The situation I'm in right now will never ever change.

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