Raising children is hard and it really does take a village and when the people in your village have different ideas about how to parent your kid,

well I know it can bring up a lot of feelings.

You're bad at this, you're messing up your kids, you don't know what you're doing,

you'll never be as good of a parent as I am.

All right well today I'm talking to a mom about a conflict that she's been having with her

child's caregiver who in many ways she adores and really doesn't want to lose, but in other ways she just can't figure out a way to maintain the relationship in a way that feels good to her.

We had a situation with our caregiver, so I'll kind of go into that a little bit more, but just so, you know, it kind of peaked and then has kind of stayed stagnant because it hasn't been addressed because that's been where my hesitation has been is making sure that I do this thoughtfully and I do it in a way where my needs are being met at the same time.

In working with a new nannyanny it's been evident that our parenting styles

differ. The realization that I'm essentially co-parenting with this individual and in

the times that I have provided feedback, which I thought has been in a respectful manner,

has inevitably caused some escalations and some tension and I feel myself retreating again because I am

terrified that I'm going to say something in my head that doesn't seem like it should be perceived in a harmful way and then there's this

Backlash that's happened

She's taken some of my vulnerabilities.

I mean, this person's in my home.

And so she's seen, look, I am by no means,

I mean, who is, a perfect parent, a perfect mother.

I have a very demanding job. It weighs on me incredibly heavily every single day that I have to work so much and not get to spend the time with my

kids. I am actually going through my own mental health journey right now, you know, dealing with some trauma therapy like a lot of stuff like I'm working on me too so I'm not by any means in the best place either, but for her to kind of pick at that

when she feels like I'm

Question maybe the way that she not questioning but like that I have asked her to address

things differently with my children it no longer feels like a safe environment.

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