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What an interesting message I received recently.

This person wrote, she is focused about her weight loss. I am not. My

girlfriend and I made years ago, she was not skinny, she wasn't overweight, but now she's focusing a lot on her weight loss looking

less attractive to me and starting to acquire the aggressiveness of, I won't read what he wrote, but she's becoming aggressive like somebody who wants to lose weight all the time.

I guess that's what he means.

And he asks, how do I tell her to stop obsessing about this crap?

Thank you for sharing that.

And it sounds like you're irritated.

It sounds like you are not liking the way you are irritated. It sounds like you are not liking the way you see her. And so here's my advice. You tell

her if this is what you want. I support you 100%.

Oh, I feel so. I know what you're thinking. I don't want to tell her that. I don't want her to do this. I don't want her to obsess like this.

Why do you think she's obsessing?

Why do you think that she's suddenly on this kick?

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