When You Don't Feel Safe Sharing With Your Spouse | Ep. 281
Awesome Marriage Podcast
Dr. Kim Kimberling
4.9 • 813 Ratings
🗓️ 18 December 2018
⏱️ 20 minutes
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Summary
Do you almost share something with your spouse but then stop yourself? Do you find yourself expecting a poor response from your spouse on a regular basis?
Sharing with our spouse is a key part of connection and intimacy. When we can't share with our spouse, it makes connecting really difficult.
In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about what to do when you don't feel safe sharing with your spouse.
Tune in to learn more about how to cultivate safe sharing in your marriage!
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations about marriage and practical advice on how to have a God-honoring awesome marriage. |
| 0:09.6 | I am your podcast producer and co-host Christina Dodson. |
| 0:12.8 | On the show will be your host, Dr. Kim Kimberling. |
| 0:15.5 | Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 40 years. |
| 0:19.7 | His passion is to help you strengthen your |
| 0:21.9 | most intimate relationship. Today on the podcast, we're talking about when you don't feel safe |
| 0:27.9 | sharing with your spouse. Sharing with our spouse is a key part of connection and intimacy. |
| 0:32.8 | And when we can't share with our spouse, it makes connecting really difficult. |
| 0:36.4 | Before we get into our conversation |
| 0:37.9 | today, I do want to caveat that this podcast is not about feeling safe in general. So this |
| 0:42.4 | podcast is not going to be about abuse or anything like that. So if you are experiencing that, |
| 0:47.2 | if you literally don't feel safe with your spouse, then these tips are not going to help you. |
| 0:51.4 | Instead, what would help you is if you get out, get safe, and get help. So that's our encouragement to you if that's your situation today. But today, that's not what we're going to be focusing on. Dr. Kim, there are a lot of reasons why we might not feel safe sharing with our spouse. What are some of those reasons? Probably a lot of reasons. I think we may not feel validated with it by our spouse. |
| 1:11.4 | And so we share with our spouse. |
| 1:13.2 | And it's like they either put us down or act like they don't care, you know, not listening. |
| 1:19.1 | You know, your spouse is not listening. |
| 1:20.3 | You know, you just, you know, I've taught couples and one of them will say, and usually the lies is I just poured my heart out. |
| 1:25.3 | And he goes, okay, and walks away. And it's like, |
| 1:28.0 | you know, didn't really hear anything. They said didn't give any feedback. And then I think sometimes, |
| 1:34.3 | you know, we, we just want to share things and we don't want our spouse to fix them. And so it's like |
| 1:39.5 | they're always trying to solve the problem. I hear things like that. You know, they're always trying to solve the problem for me. That's not what I want. So I think there's a number of different ways and probably |
| 1:47.3 | couples listening could say, yeah, this happens in my marriage and this is when I don't feel |
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