Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim Kim, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening. Today we're going to be talking about just what to do when you don't know

where to start with your marriage. We get submitted this question a lot of just people who are in marriages where their marriage

seems so impossible and so hard on so many levels and so bad that they just really don't even

know where to start on trying to work on things and trying to fix and heal their marriage.

So Dr. Kim, when things are that bad, how do we pick where to start working on things?

Yeah, and I think sometimes that's hard because

nothing is going to get better if you don't do something to make it better. You know, if you're,

if you're talking about sports and you're talking about a team and they keep making the same mistakes

over and over and they don't time to practice, they don't take time to look at doing something

different. They're making me better.

I'm going to keep losing games. And so I think knowing that a good place to start would be,

I think counseling, I'm always going to say that because I think finding a good Christian counselor,

there's so many good Christian counselors. And God is a good people. And you will see some,

you will open some you will

open your eyes you'll see things in a different light you'll you'll have some wisdom from

someone to really help you begin to do that the other thing you know do you really want to make it

better or do you want out you know and so if you really want to make it better I think you've got

to make that commitment to that you've got got to say, okay, I took a

vow, I took a covenant. We did that before God. I'm committed to do whatever we can and we're going to

do, whether this is this is the one last try or whatever it is. We're going to do that. And then I think

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