This is NPR's Life Kit. I'm your host, Maryl Segarra, here with Life Kit Reporter Diana Pong.

Hey, Diana. Hey, Maryl. How's it going? I'm good. I mean, there's been something that's kind of

been on my mind for a couple of days. It's kind of annoying having the other day, not a big deal.

What happened? Okay. I feel kind of silly telling you this. So just bear that in mind. So I went

to go get gas the other day and you know, convenient stores right there and I'm like,

oh, let me go grab a snack. It's a busy day. Just grab a little something and you know, carry on.

And as I was walking to the door, somebody was walking sort of just ahead of me and didn't hold

the door for me. And I just, I was surprised. Yeah, because that's super rude. Yeah, I guess so. I mean,

I just remember kind of like standing there for a minute, thinking like, I just don't understand.

Like, how hard is it to hold the door for somebody? Like, it's just such a small thing. And I remember

being like really annoyed by the whole thing. Yeah, I get it. I feel like this has actually happened

to me. I actually had a woman slam the door in my face once, like right in my face when I was

coming into a building. And I thought about it for days. Like, I was obsessed with it. Yeah, it's

like there's this thing where our inner voice just starts talking to us and judging this person

and their actions. And it feels in the moment kind of like too much, right? Because it seems like

such a small thing. Somebody not holding a door for you. Not a big deal. But it felt like a big deal

in the moment. Yeah, I think it's partly like, why would they do this to me? Did I do something to

upset them? Yeah. I don't understand. It's hard to not take it personal. And so I went in, I got a

snack. I grabbed a soda and some jerky or something. But like, it took me a while to figure out what

I was doing. I was kind of grumpy as I was like, tromping in the store once I finally like

opened the door. And I just, I don't know, I just, I couldn't stop thinking about it after I left

and just made me feel kind of bad. I don't know. Totally. I feel like in those moments, it can be

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