Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship.

You deserve respect and kindness.

All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only.

Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thanks for joining me today.

I'm going to read you a couple of messages that I received.

I don't normally read these kinds of messages on the air because I like to get straight

to certain questions about relationships and the difficulties that we have in relationships,

but there are success stories.

They don't always succeed the way you want them to succeed, but there are success stories.

And every now and then I like to read the messages that I get when somebody has gone

through something and gotten out of it,

maybe not unscathed, but they're in a better place. And sometimes that's in the relationship.

Sometimes they're in a better place in the relationship. The majority of messages that I get are from people who are in a relationship with someone

who refuses to see that they are the problem and refuses to make any changes.

And even if they say, okay, I'll make a change, they revert right back to who they were.

And to anybody out there who has a partner or a friend or a family member that always seems

to be unhappy with you, no matter what you do, no matter how you show up, they just seem unhappy and you seem to be

blaming them all the time and making them feel bad and making them feel bad about themselves

and making them feel guilty and responsible for all the problems. If that's you, then you may

need to make some changes.

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