Welcome to let it be easy with Susie Moore.

Do you ever just want to shut down or run and hide in moments of great intensity when you can just feel that situations feel like they are kind of getting out of control or there's a lot of negative emotion that just seems to be rising and it can just feel like,

oh, I want to get away from this.

Like it feels kind of scary in a way.

Our emotional regulation just feels like it's,'s oh my gosh just spinning spinning

and we we we almost don't know what to do what to feel how to react or if at

all to react or if at all to react.

I always think that the truth, our loving center,

our own steadiness is always going to be the answer.

Right, when we're stressed out, when we're scared, when we're engaged in something that just feels very heavy or intense,

we're not making good decisions.

Right, that's why we say really mean things, we often don't even mean when we're angry.

Because we can feel so consumed by a situation, the intensity of it, we just act out out we react. I always think to myself what can I do to put it in neutral?

Maybe it's walking away, maybe it's having a bit of a break, a break is always wonderful if you're able to take one, even just for a few seconds.

But I think that the magic is putting it in neutral, whatever the situation is. this is what diplomats do right it's what negotiators do they're often dealing with two sides

They have very conflicting points of view. It's very very

It's heavy it feels almost irreconcilable.

So step number one is somehow to reach a neutral position,

right, to find what it is that you can all agree on some form of common ground.

So an example of this recently was, I was with a family member who was complaining a lot.

Right, she was complaining a lot, wasn't happy with this, wasn't happy with that.

I said that someone didn't treat her well yesterday and it was all just kind of compounding and I could just feel her negative

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