Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Are you fighting with somebody right now? Is there some conflict or some tension in a relationship?

Maybe it's in your marriage, maybe it's with a sibling,

maybe it's with a co-worker, maybe it's with someone even on the internet who you've never met who you really don't like but you really disagree with on something

There is a gorgeous Native American saying that just really hits home to me whenever I hear it or whenever I recall it.

And it says this,

No trees have branches so foolish as to fight among themselves.

Let me repeat that.

No trees have branches so foolish as to fight among themselves.

I think about that when I think about us as human beings on planet Earth.

Do we need to fight with one another? I mean this as a collective as all human beings. I also mean it within families, within working

structures, within friendship groups.

No trees have branches so foolish as to fight among themselves. There has been a big shift in terms of how I fight as I get older.

And the way that I think about fighting or conflict or tension or lack of a resolution

or even two people coming head to head on something on a topic on a point of disagreement

is I love to replace the word that we have to describe with someone else and with

ourselves with scared. Let me explain that. If I said someone's really angry with me, I'll think they're

scared of something. What have I done? That's allowed them to feel scared. And if they're

scared, doesn't that actually warrant my compassion versus my mutual anger in

response? If someone's anxious, I think they're scared. Even if someone's

disappointed, I think they're scared. I learned years they go through a course of miracles that there are only two emotions, love and

fear, there are only two ways of being and existing in this world.

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