When someone destroys what makes you happy
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.7 • 877 Ratings
🗓️ 26 November 2024
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
What do you do when someone shatters something that brought you joy? In this episode, I talk about understanding your limits in relationships and recognizing when resilience becomes a liability rather than a strength. It's important you know how to navigate toward making the right decisions for you and those you love.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to love and abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship, from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors. |
| 0:08.2 | You deserve respecting kindness. |
| 0:10.5 | All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only. |
| 0:14.0 | Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being and always pick your battles wisely. |
| 0:19.2 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:27.8 | Welcome to love and abuse. |
| 0:30.9 | I'm going to get right into today's topic, which is, |
| 0:36.4 | how bad does it have to get before you leave someone or get away from them? |
| 0:41.4 | What is your criteria? What is your upper boundary? |
| 0:53.1 | The most someone can push you to the edge before you either stop it and get back off the edge or fall off. |
| 1:01.8 | In other words, how tolerant are you of the behaviors of someone else before you've had enough? |
| 1:03.7 | What is your threshold? |
| 1:07.5 | How much more are you willing to take? |
| 1:14.5 | And this is probably one of the most important questions that I would love for you to have a real answer to. My mom didn't have that answer. She stayed in an abusive relationship for over 40 years |
| 1:24.4 | until he finally left her. Her boundaries had no upper limit. There was no threshold. |
| 1:31.0 | I mean, there might have been, but he never pushed her to the point where she either had enough |
| 1:38.3 | and had to go or was pushed so far off the edge that she had some sort of mental breakdown. |
| 1:46.6 | She had a lot of many mental breakdowns, well, not a lot, but some from my recollection when I was living with her and the stuff she's told me. |
| 1:55.9 | But not enough for her to say no more. |
| 2:05.6 | And I don't mean just say it. I mean act it, behave it, do it. When you act and behave and do no more, meaning you are doing the process of |
| 2:14.6 | not accepting it anymore, not accepting the behaviors anymore, you put a stop to it. |
| 2:21.2 | And it's either putting a stop to what they do or putting a stop to exposing yourself to it. |
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