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I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thanks for joining me for another episode of love and abuse.

Got a message recently from someone who wants to take a break from the relationship

because they've discovered that they have emotional abusive tendencies

and they said they want to take a break and work on themselves and wow how often do you do you hear

that that's just that's great so i'm glad to hear that this person wants to do that they wrote that we're

both taking some time to rediscover ourselves and grow

individually. I've never taken a break from a relationship and the thought is terrifying. I never

really thought I understood the point of a break, but I'm so compatible with my girlfriend,

something both of us agree on. I want to fight for this relationship and fight for us because I know there's a relationship

or a healthy relationship on the other side. Right now we're putting together the terms of our

breakup and I was, or break, not break up. And I was wondering if you knew the or you had a good

idea of what length a healthy break is. First of all, that is amazing that you are willing to look at

this relationship and say, we need to take a break and work on ourselves. That is what I teach

in my other programs and what I teach on this show. And I think it's so important to take a break

sometimes when you just can't seem to get through

the difficulties.

And the reason for that is because we get so enmeshed in each other's stuff.

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