There's no doubt that sexuality is a precious gift for married couples.

But what if you're not, let's say, experiencing the frequency of sexual intimacy as you'd like?

I'm John Fuller in the studio with Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife, Aaron.

They lead the Focus Marriage Department. And

Aaron, it seems like it's pretty common from what I pick up for couples to avoid having any

sort of dialogue about the sexual part of their marriage. Why is that? Well, you think about

it can be an awkward conversation, especially based on what you came from with your family of origin.

Maybe sex was never talked about.

Maybe sex was like it's considered a very private, personal thing that we don't address.

And maybe you never even had the talk.

So based on what you came from, then you

get married and maybe your spouse isn't comfortable talking about it either. So then we just don't

talk about it. As well as I think sometimes couples try to talk about it and it doesn't go well.

Conflict breaks out. And so they're like, we'll never talk about that again.

It's not safe.

Yeah.

So it's exploring all that, but so many couples are not experiencing what they both

desire as far as frequency.

And the conversation just doesn't happen.

I would say up to 50% of couples coming in for counseling aren't satisfied in their sexual experience. And so

it's worth talking about, it's worth exploring what is the issue. Where is it coming from? Is it

is it because we've had conflict and it doesn't feel safe to talk about it? Is it that it doesn't

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