You want to stay calm. You want to be that grounded, sturdy, pilot, leader to your kid.

And then there's a slam door. There's an, I hate you. There's a, you never do anything for me

right after you did 5,832 things for your child in the last hour. We all yell.

We all say the words we promised ourselves.

We would never say.

We all have moments when our nervous system hijacks our parenting and our value system just hasn't had the time to catch up.

It is so important to demystify what yelling is really about

and to understand what yelling is not at all about.

That's exactly what we'll be talking about today.

I promise you by the end of today's episode, you're going to

have so many new aha moments as in, oh, that's a totally different way to think about it.

And you're going to have a bunch of heartfelt moments. Like, ooh, that hit me somewhere I really needed.

You're going to feel empowered and hopeful,

and you're going to have a new way of looking at the moments we all struggle with.

I'm Dr. Becky, and this is Good Inside.

We'll be back right after this.

Here's a story from my private practice that has always stayed with me. I was seeing a mom,

and she was telling me about a moment from earlier in her week where her and her daughter were arguing nonstop about what clothes she was allowed to wear out.

And then the moment ended with her daughter looking at her and just screaming, I hate you!

And then the mom screamed right back.

Well, I don't like you either. And then the mom screamed right back. Well, I don't like you either.

And then silence.

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