For anyone who has been through a relationship or a situation where they have been hurt, betrayed,

lied to, had the rug pulled out from under them unexpectedly, lack of trust becomes the natural corollary to this scenario.

We then go into the next part of our lives, fearing that it will happen again.

And this is especially true in situations where there were things that happened to us that we didn't

see coming. And we then live with this insecurity that, my God, if that can happen, anything can

happen. I'll never be safe even in situations

where I thought I was safe at any point the unthinkable could happen and that rocks our fundamental

sense of security in life it can make us feel completely untethered and it can certainly have the

effect of making us not even want to invest

in a new situation. So here are eight rules of life for you if you're suffering from a lack

of trust right now. Number one, give an amount of time and energy you are willing to lose.

Some of our problems with trusting come from the fact that we feel like the stakes are too high

if this person ends up betraying us.

What if I end up losing all of this time and energy and all of this love I've given

yet again to be betrayed or hurt?

But the catch-22 is that in the beginning,

we have to give some energy in order to get something off the ground.

We can't give nothing and wait for the point

where somebody just proves to us that they're always gonna be there

as if that's ever really reliable in that sense. But until you feel safe

enough to give more, at a certain point in the beginning, we have to give some of our time and

love and energy to see what this thing could be. But if we say to ourselves, what am I willing to

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