Hey everybody welcome to your move I'm Andy Stanley so you're in a relationship and

things are not going well.

It's not what you hope for, it's not what you dreamed of.

So what do you do?

Well sometimes you just gotta throw things.

That's right you gotta throw things.

Stick around and we'll talk about it right here on your moon.

So we are in part three of what do happy couples know and so the question is what do happy

couples know and here's what happy couples know.

But over time and sometimes initially but often times eventually that our hopes, dreams

and desires become expectations.

And they become expectations when we take our hopes, dreams and desires which seem so

light and so happy and so tangible and so easily fulfilled and we hand them to somebody

else and it feels like that.

And then what was meant to be enjoyable becomes transactional.

And when the relationship becomes transactional it's not as much fun anymore because everybody's

negotiating and the problem with transactional is the best negotiator in the relationship

always wins because it's a negotiation.

So the best negotiator continues to win.

He always wins, she always wins.

I had my plan, I knew exactly what I was going to say, I had my approach all planned out

and she won again, he won again.

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