Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

I want to start by saying happy birthday. Thank you. I will not sing. You are 42?

42. How do you feel? I feel great. I feel like my response to 42 is like,

fuck yeah, 42, you know? I think people get so, especially women get so

freaked out about aging and getting into their 40s and I'm I'm having none of that I think my 40s was my favorite decade. Was it really why?

Yeah. You know 20s is just exploration 20s is just just pushing things as far as you can to see what will happen

30s you kind of turn the corner I think this is a generalization but especially for men mid 30s you the all that kind of stuff you want to be better. I think for women it comes earlier and then I think

40s you get to a place where you're like okay now now I'm actually there's a lot of

acceptance I like myself of, there's a lot of acceptance. I like myself. Of course there are things I can work on, but I started noticing trees at 40. You know, I started to, I mean, you know, all the things that you talk about tiny little

little joys I didn't have any ability or capacity like to me that would have been

ridiculous I would I would roll my eyes at you know, in my 20s and 30s.

40s I got it and then now being 50, I feel the most kind of grounded.

I mean I still have you know

insecurities and of course I want a lot of things and stuff but I'm I'm not

rocked off my center as much as I used to be, that makes sense.

Yeah, totally.

You know what I'm noticing about 40s too

is like the nature of goals is shifting a little bit

so that like, I want a goal not because of some insecurity or some sense of deficiency. I want the goal just for the sake of it. You know what I mean?

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