Is a sexless marriage and relationship really that bad for men?

I see this online all the time.

I get messages from men who say, I'm in a sexless marriage.

We haven't had sex in three years.

We haven't had sex in six months.

You know, I've been in this relationship for a couple years now and it's turned sexless.

The truth is that being in a sexless relationship can have a very negative impact on men.

You see, a sexless marriage or relationship isn't just about the lack of intimacy.

It's about the absence of connection and what that absence of connection actually does

to the mind and the body and the sense of self inside of that man.

You see, when a man lives without any type of physical connection, his nervous system

and his brain will start to treat his partner and the relationship like a threat. It is incongruent

with the function of how that man perceives the relationship to be, right? The function of the relationship.

What will start to happen is that stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline will begin

to flood his body while bonding chemicals, the chemicals like oxytocin that will help him to connect with his partner,

the chemicals that actually helped him to connect and fall in love in the first place,

they will begin to dwindle and turn off. So his brain will start to rewire itself. A man's brain

will start to rewire itself when sex is not present, preparing

him not just for the rejection of his wife or his girlfriend or partner, but from life itself.

He will start to feel like he's having to brace for rejection, for failure in so many different parts of his life.

And what started in the bedroom at home, in the relationship, will begin to corrode his confidence,

his sense of self-trust, and even that man's ability to feel worthy as a man and know that he can contribute

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