Men, welcome to the Man Talk Show.

This is training for men and answers for women.

I'm Connor Vieten.

And today we're going to be talking about how to support your partner best if she's dealing with anxiety.

And lately, I've had a lot of men reaching out through the Man Talks community on Facebook or through Instagram saying, my partner has anxiety and I feel like I am not supporting her in the way that she is

needing, please help. And so let's just dive straight in. I think one of the biggest mistakes,

and we're going to start with the biggest mistake, one of the biggest mistake that we make, guys,

is that when our partner is dealing with anxiety, it's very common that that anxiety shows up with some of the things that we're doing.

Maybe she hasn't told us that she has anxiety or maybe that anxiety is there, but she's not

necessarily labeled when it's showing up or she has told us and we just haven't really caught

onto it yet. So one of the biggest mistakes that we make is that when the anxiety shows up, we take it

personally. We make it about us. We make it that we have failed. We have failed to protect her in some

way or provide some sort of safety for her. And that taking it personally generally causes us

to feel like we are responsible for their anxiety and then

all sorts of stuff happens. We get defensive. Communication starts to break down and we really

stop supporting her in the way that she's needing in those moments. So here's the catch. First and

foremost, remind yourself even if her anxiety is coming up about something that you have done or about some behavior of yours or some insecurity that might be there.

Remind yourself that this anxiety might be, the content might be about me, but the anxiety is not.

All right.

Those are two very different things. The content might be about me, but the anxiety is not. All right? Those are two very different things. The content

might be about me, but the anxiety is not. So with that in mind, I just want to drop a little quote

out here by Dan Millman. He says, you don't have to control your thoughts. You just have to make

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