This is heal, survive, and thrive with your host Stephanie Lynn. This podcast is for anyone who has

ever gone through a painful gut-wrenching, breakup or divorce that wants to not only know how the hell to

heal from that mess, but also want the tools to be able to rebuild a life better than they

even had before. There are no victims here. So if you want to hear

the real truths about what you should and shouldn't be doing to move on and then stay tuned.

Hey, guys, welcome back to He'll Survive and Thrive. We are going to talk about letting go,

moving on, telling you, after doing this for, oh my God, almost 10 years now,

I can tell you that everyone really struggles with the same things when it comes to moving on.

Most people kind of struggle with this aspect of letting go and allowing themselves to really

grieve. Most people don't really know how to grieve. They don't allow themselves to do it.

They just turn this divorce, heartbreak, breakup into the most gut-wrenching thing that's ever

happened to them. And don't get me wrong. Some of them are painful. I honestly believe that

my divorce was one of the hardest things that I'll probably ever go through

in my entire life, knock on wood. But up until that point, that was really, I had never

experienced that kind of betrayal or disappointment or real significant change. I'm talking like

drastic change to my life in so many areas. So it was easy

to just focus on, okay, I'm getting PTSD. Okay, I'm now alone. Okay, this person left me for someone

else. Like, you know, it's easy to just allow those stories to kind of take over. And when you're

in the midst of feeling that level of pain,

it's hard sometimes to let yourself grieve because we don't want to feel pain. We're programmed to

seek pleasure and kind of avoid pain. And because of that, I think it really hurts our ability to kind of let go and

move on. Because if we're not processing the emotional aspect, then we're just going to get stuck.

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