Ladies, I've got a secret. Even now, in my 40s I've been married for over 20 years. I'm still learning about sex and rather than being quiet or ashamed, which trust me, part of me still wants to say quiet about sex because I still find it a little embarrassing. And that's how I know it's something we absolutely need to talk about. We need to actually get comfortable with the fact that sex is important to us as women. And so today I'm bringing on Miss Jaya to blow the lid of why millions of women are quietly suffering through a decade of penicentric sex life and totally clueless on how to awaken their own sexual erotic pleasure in the bedroom. So guys, we're not giving up on our partners just yet. There is hope for them and hope for us and a chance for you to have the mind blowing experience that you and Lina, that you deserve. I'm Lisa Biliou and I'm here to empower you guys and myself included. So let's dive in right now with the amazing six-ologis, Jaya and pop back tomorrow for part two. You're not going to want to miss it. Trust me, you're not. Here I am, the sexologist, and my partner would just roll over and not be interested. And then I'd roll over the other side and cry. One of my main questions I asked myself is what is erotically possible? I started noticing these patterns, you know. That's where the erotically prints came from. There are five types and the first one's an energetic. Number two is essential. One of the orgasmic superpowers of the shape shifter is whoa. This is by the way blind one line. So please everyone stop faking it. We want those orgasmic explosions. Five minutes of oral sex every day for 90 days straight. Both sides doing it. Yeah, both sides doing it. I find the essential in the kinky work really really well together. Most people think that, oh, if I have the same type, that's gonna be the best.

And it isn't nothing. for 90 days straight. Both sides doing it? Yeah, both sides doing it. I find the sensual and the kinky work really, really well together.

Most people think that, oh, if I have the same type, that's going to be the best.

And it isn't necessarily the best.

It is dry. Yeah. For now, sexologists. Best telling all, they're pioneer. Helping folks in the bedroom and elsewhere? It's not my donna. Yeah, people really worried, am I broken? Am I weird? Are my genitals okay?

We're all wired differently in the bedroom.

There's nothing wrong with you.

People would come up, wow, this has completely changed my life. Everything makes sense now. Sex is a tool for our own self-realization. We've only touched the tip of the iceberg as to what's possible erotically. The number one thing when it comes to these blue princesses. What's the number one reason women are actually having such bad sex right now?

I think one of the biggest reasons is because we have a lack of comprehensive actually accurate sex education. We've only touched the surface, like the tip of the iceberg as to what's possible erotically, especially with our bodies. And then we have a whole layer of shame on top of it. So we can't talk about it. If I admit something's not right, that's not okay. Like, where do I even go for this education to empower myself erotically? I don't think sex is just something that happens in our brains. Although, you know, our bee spot is very powerful. Our brain is very powerful in terms of visualization, in terms of fantasy. However, getting into your body and understanding what your body is actually turned on by is is a big piece of it. And so that's where the erotic blueprints came from. So there are five types. And the first one is an energetic. And that's someone who's turned on by space, tease, anticipation, longing, yearning. And the superpower of the energetic is that they can have orgasms without even being touched. They can go into expanded states of consciousness. They can go into multi-dimensional sex, and this is we can sometimes get really far out with what happens within the energetic realm. I love the energetic, but the shadow side of the energetic is often because they're so sensitive and attuned that they can short circuit really easily. And so if you go too much, too quick, you collapse space too much for them, then they're going to dissociate, they're gonna shut down. And then they think they're weird or wrong or something's broken in me, that they start to build up armor. Instead of really speaking up and saying, no, like let's stop, let's pause, something just happened, wait a minute. They will override their bodies continually. And then that starts to create this like, let's stop. Let's pause. Something just happened. Wait a minute. They will override their bodies continually. And then that starts to create this like, every time I go to have sex now, I'm starting to just dissociate in order to take it. And so the shadows are like the brakes. And even though we may be doing all the turn on things, if you've got the brake on on the car, your car's not going to go anywhere. You're just going to rev the engine and not have any orgasmic explosions happening. So we want those orgasmic explosions. So we want to take the foot off of the brake. Looking at the shadow side is where we go, okay, where do we need to heal within our sexuality or work with those shadows, bring them to the light, bring them into consciousness, stop the patterns that are there so that we can actually now accelerate. So going down a a little deeper on the energy, so we're going to go through every single one of these, but going a little deeper on the energetic then, how do you start to identify that you are potentially an energetic? There are a couple of different ways which we can identify an erotic blueprint. One is that we can see what's happening in the body and how the body is turned on. The other is from what our mind is saying. So we wanna look at both things, not just one aspect of it. So I like to do a lot of different games to determine how you can see, like how is my body responding? What's happening in my mind during this? And we can start to pay attention. And so really it is paying attention. And I think the energetic blueprint, however, is the it's like we don't know much about it and we don't expect like somebody's turned on by not being touched in the bedroom and also like that aspect of okay wait a minute this is where my turn on is and feeling it and noticing that well when somebody's actually farther away from me I feel more that starts to give you a clue that you could be an energetic. But when somebody's coming in too much, that you're not feeling as much turn on, or, you know, doing all the sex tips and techniques, you're not feeling the turn on in those standard narrative sexual techniques. Then that may be a clue. Oh, maybe I'm an energetic, because I feel more in the anticipation before the kiss

than the actual kiss. Okay, so is that one of the signs? Yes, so it's the thing that happened before the actual act itself. Yes. So how do you then start off with so many questions? Hello. So how do you do your advice that people do this if you're with a partner, or what if you're not with a partner? I would assume that it'd be better to identify what type of blueprint you have before you get into a sexual relationship. Yeah. So how do you navigate this? Absolutely. So I think sex is something that isn't just about having a partner. I mean, we get so tripped up and like, oh, sex is this thing I do with a partner. No, sex is something that you're doing with you. relationship with your own aliveness, with your own life force, with life itself. And I really like to parse out eroticism, which is why I call it the erotic blueprints versus sex, because I think that eroticism is life. And it is this juice. It is this aliveness. The tantric is called it shuckty energy. And so when we have that vitality that's happening, it's shifting our biochemistry in our body even. You know, our sex hormones are our youth hormones, so it gives us this radiance to have that aliveness intact and that sexual energy flowing through our bodies. So how would you identify with the energetic then? If you're single, how would you know? Because if you're not then becoming intimate with a person yet, how would you identify that? One thing people can do, just everybody who's listening or watching to hover your hand over your arm and notice what do you feel? And to breathe, and just notice what happens with your breath. Can you feel the heat from your hand?

Do you feel any electricity? What's happening? Are you tensing your jaw? You know, like what starts to happen? As you're just doing this, hovering, and then you can even go to the little hairs on your arms with your fingertip. And do you get little like, whoah, chills, or do you notice any kind of energy activate in your genitals as you're touching your body this way, that could be a tune in

that you are an energetic.

You can do all- like, whoah, chills, or do you notice any kind of energy activate in your genitals as you're touching your body this way?

That could be a tune in that you are an energetic.

You can do all of these types of games in your body alone.

You don't necessarily need a partner to do them.

And they may change when you're with a partner.

You know, you may, you may then do it with a partner

and you're like, oh, wait a minute, solo sacs,

sex by myself, I'm really energetic.

Or I think a lot of people self pleasure

in the sexual blueprint, because that's what we're taught.

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