Validating Feelings Isn't Working

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.7 • 3.8K Ratings

🗓️ 2 August 2022

⏱️ 20 minutes

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Summary

The practice of acknowledging our children's feelings and struggles can provide healing, calming messages of safety and acceptance. With a genuine tone and a few words, our acknowledgments can help children share pent-up emotions, feel seen and heard, and gradually regulate, which in turn eases problematic behaviors. However, parents commonly share with Janet that validating feelings doesn't work for their child and feels more like an exercise in frustration. Janet speaks to some of the common reasons this practice might feel less effective, what to do instead, and why we shouldn't give up on acknowledging as a powerfully empathic relationship-building tool. Step up your gut health with Ritual's new Synbiotic+ for 10% off during your first 3 months by going to www.Ritual.com/RESPECT. For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble, and Apple Books. Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com). Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Janet Lansbury. Welcome to Unreffled. Well, today I'm going to be talking about this idea of
0:10.5	validating or I actually prefer the term acknowledging a child's feelings. Some of the benefits of that and
0:18.9	mostly also I want to focus on the common challenges because I hear from many parents that this
0:26.5	isn't working for them. And so I would like to try to speak to that and talk about some of the
0:32.0	common reasons that this practice isn't as successful as we might want it to be. But first,
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1:19.5	probiotic that never makes it to your colon, what's the point? As I've mentioned before, my family
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2:09.2	slash respect. Okay, so first, I just want to mention why I prefer the term
2:18.6	acknowledged to validate, validating feelings. That's of course something that's helpful to do with
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