Welcome to Untangle, the podcast from Muse, the brain sensing headband that helps you meditate.

I'm Patricia Carpus, your host, along with my co-host every other week, Muse co-founder, Ariel Garten.

We're celebrating Valentine's Day all week.

It's a special week of encores where our guests share wisdom and inspiration on self-love, romantic

relationships, the neuroscience of sex, love, and affection, how men are changing in relationships,

and we'll give it a go to demystify the challenges that all relationships present.

And don't forget to check out the new Muse S, which has new features designed to help

lull you to sleep after you've learned everything you need to know about relationships.

You can check it out at choosemuse.com and use Untangle 15 for your discount.

Today's guest is Dr. Jenny Tates.

Dr. Tates is a psychologist and has written several articles for the New York

Times, Wall Street Journal, and the San Francisco Chronicle, among others. She works with her patients

to provide them with tools to get unstock in many areas of their lives. She incorporates

mindfulness into different types of therapies, including dialectical behavior therapy and cognitive

behavior therapy. Dr. Tates recently wrote an article for the New York Times about turning regrets

into self-improvement. I was taken by this article because of the many ways that regret can drag us

down and keep us stuck. She's also the author of a book called How to Be Single and Happy,

Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity while looking for a soulmate.

In this interview, we discussed both the article and her book,

and of course how mindfulness helps.

Before we get started, just a little reminder to check out our app, Meditation Studio,

with meditations designed to help you with many of life's challenges and to inspire you just when

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