Uninvited Guests - How to Share Hearts Instead of Words, Part 2

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🗓️ 15 October 2025

⏱️ 25 minutes

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Summary

In this message, Chip explains how you can improve the communication in your marriage. Communication is the highway on which love travels. Chip shares how you can start building your own relational super highway.

Understanding the communication process:

Definition: The meeting of MEANINGS.

“Communication is the privilege of exchanging vulnerabilities.” -Norman Wright
“Communication is the process of sharing yourself verbally and nonverbally in such a way that the other person can both accept and understand what you are saying.” -Norman Wright

The complete message

Words alone = 7% of meaning
Tone of voice = 38% of meaning
Facial expression, gestures, posture, total non-verbal = 55% of meaning

5 Principles that will transform communication in your home:

BE HONEST - Speak the truth in love. -Ephesians 4:15, 25
BE ANGRY- Deal with anger appropriately. -Ephesians 4:26-27
BE DILIGENT - Work hard on your relationship. -Ephesians 4:28
BE POSITIVE - Don’t wound with your words. -Ephesians 4:29-31
BE FORGIVING - Be the first to say, “I’m sorry.” -Ephesians 4:32

Practical skills and suggestions to enhance communication in your home:

The conference - A tool for listening. Ask Three Questions:

What are you concerned about?
What do you desire?
What are you willing to do?

Word pictures - A tool for understanding
“Care” lists - A tool for building: List seven simple, loving, “caring behaviors” that are non-conflict producing and not expensive that make you feel loved by your spouse.

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0:00.0	In our last broadcast, I told you that communication is the highway on which love travels.
0:07.9	And I gave you two key principles for improving, really developing your communication.
0:13.7	Today, I want to give you the last three principles you're not going to want to miss it.
0:18.5	If you want your love to get through, you can learn to
0:22.0	communicate better today. Thanks for listening to this edition of Living on the Edge with
0:29.9	Chip Ingram. We are an international teaching and discipleship ministry that motivates Christians
0:35.5	to live like Christians. Well, today, Chip picks up where we left off in our series Uninvited Guests, with the second
0:41.8	half of his talk about healthy communication in marriage.
0:45.3	He has a lot to share, so grab your Bible and go again to Ephesians Chapter 4.
0:49.3	Chip begins by continuing to walk through the principles that will revolutionize the way you and your spouse communicate.
0:56.2	Let's dive in.
0:58.1	The third principle out of this is be diligent.
1:01.7	Work hard on your relationships.
1:04.8	Verse 28, if you used to be a thief, you must not only give up stealing, you must learn to make an honest living so that you may be able to give to those in need. And the idea here is be diligent. You know, he's talking about this transformation in relationships and he says, yeah, you used to be a thief. What's the idea of a thief? It's a shortcut. Stealing is no more than, I want the product, I don't want the process. I mean,
1:28.7	you work all week and then the guy comes up and puts the gun and says, you get your money
1:32.6	out of the ATM and he takes it. You did all the work, he gets all the reward. That violates
1:38.8	a biblical principle of communication and relationship. He says, be diligent, work hard. I came to realize, I don't
1:46.7	have the skill to relate. I have baggage. I have sin. She's a woman. I'm a man. We got different
1:52.7	personalities. I realize I needed to sign up for the rest of my life and make my marriage,
1:57.9	my number one priority, and work at it. And what we want is we want these ideal marriages that are wonderful,
2:04.0	but we don't want to put the time in.
2:06.5	I don't want to go through the process.
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