Uninvited Guests - How to Share Hearts Instead of Words, Part 1
Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram Daily Podcast
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🗓️ 14 October 2025
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Summary
This message focuses on a candid look at communication. If you want to learn how to improve the communication in your marriage, to share hearts instead of just exchanging words, then join Chip.
Understanding the communication process:
Definition: The meeting of MEANINGS.
- “Communication is the privilege of exchanging vulnerabilities.” -Norman Wright
- “Communication is the process of sharing yourself verbally and nonverbally in such a way that the other person can both accept and understand what you are saying.” -Norman Wright
The complete message
- Words alone = 7% of meaning
- Tone of voice = 38% of meaning
- Facial expression, gestures, posture, total non-verbal = 55% of meaning
5 Principles that will transform communication in your home:
- BE HONEST - Speak the truth in love. -Ephesians 4:15, 25
- BE ANGRY- Deal with anger appropriately. -Ephesians 4:26-27
- BE DILIGENT - Work hard on your relationship. -Ephesians 4:28
- BE POSITIVE - Don’t wound with your words. -Ephesians 4:29-31
- BE FORGIVING - Be the first to say, “I’m sorry.” -Ephesians 4:32
Practical skills and suggestions to enhance communication in your home:
- The conference - A tool for listening. Ask Three Questions:
- What are you concerned about?
- What do you desire?
- What are you willing to do?
- Word pictures - A tool for understanding
- “Care” lists - A tool for building: List seven simple, loving, “caring behaviors” that are non-conflict producing and not expensive that make you feel loved by your spouse.
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| 0:00.0 | For the first two years of our marriage, Teresa and I argued and fought a lot. |
| 0:07.0 | And then I learned five principles from Scripture that revolutionized how we dealt with those issues. |
| 0:14.0 | If you want to learn how to improve the communication with your mate, stick around. |
| 0:25.9 | Welcome to this edition of Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram. We are an international teaching and discipleship ministry devoted to helping Christians worldwide |
| 0:31.9 | live out their faith for the glory of God and the good of all. We're in the middle |
| 0:36.4 | of our ongoing series, Uninvited |
| 0:38.5 | Guests. Last time, he explained that great marriages practiced three essential skills |
| 0:43.8 | and highlighted the first one, which is forgiving your mate. Today, he's focusing on an area |
| 0:49.5 | every couple can grow in, communication. We'll stick around to learn how to engage with your spouse in a |
| 0:56.0 | sincere, heartfelt way while also listening to their wants, needs, and desires. So if you're ready, |
| 1:02.7 | go to Ephesians chapter four in your Bible and settle in for his talk, how to share hearts |
| 1:07.6 | instead of exchange words. |
| 1:16.6 | Communication is the highway upon which love travels. |
| 1:18.1 | Okay? |
| 1:25.3 | Communication is the highway upon which love travels. |
| 1:27.3 | You can love one another. You can love God. You can be committed to one another. |
| 1:31.2 | And if you can't get out inside of you, what you really think and what you really feel, and if your |
| 1:37.4 | mate can't do it in a way that doesn't attack and wound one another, I will tell you in years and years |
| 1:44.0 | of marriage counseling, there are people that love one another, I will tell you in years and years of marriage counseling, there are people |
| 1:45.8 | that love one another, love God, and no longer are together because they could not communicate |
| 1:51.9 | and get to the heart of the issues. I told you earlier about that first couple years of my life |
| 1:58.4 | and that professor sent us to marriage counseling and I bet 90% of it |
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