Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to the show.

I am Paul Koliani, like intro says, and I want to remind you that the information on love and

abuse is meant for educational purposes only. Always seek a professional for your mental health

and well-being. And today I want to talk about something that won't take me too long. I just want to

convey this so that there's an understanding of manipulation and sort of its roots, the roots of manipulation.

And this isn't like all encompassing.

This is more likely than not the majority of the roots of manipulation.

And what I'm talking about is whenever you want something and you want it

really badly, you're more likely to want to manipulate the circumstances to get it. And this is

important to know because we know people that manipulate, I mean, you probably know someone that

manipulates to get what they

want. And the root of manipulation is very selfish. It is a way to get what you want by controlling

the circumstances and the people around you to get that, to make it happen. And so if you have

control of the people and the circumstances around you, you get what you

want and you've successfully manipulated.

Once that manipulation has taken place and you get what you want, then you're happy, supposedly.

I mean, that's how people who use manipulation think typically.

As long as I can manipulate, I can get what I want.

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