Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Thank you. power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to another episode of love and abuse. I hope that if you are going through the holidays right now when this is being

recorded, that you're surviving. You're surviving the holidays that you're getting through,

especially when it comes to family and reunitations or reunions. When you are dealing with family,

there's a certain different level of energy exchange i guess i

could say because family they know you all your life pretty much you you know family all their

lives and you know how they are and they know you all your life and they think they know who you are.

But then some people, they go out and listen to shows like this.

They listen to my other show, the overwhelmed brain, they listen and read and watch

and study and do everything they can to improve themselves.

They go through a personal growth process.

And when they do that, they shift.

I believe you listening to shows like this,

you doing everything you can to improve yourself,

whether it's self-help or you reach out to counselors, therapists, or even really smart best friends or even family that can help you through your struggles and your challenges.

I believe when you do that, you go through a shift.

You have to because you learn something new and then you start to question old beliefs and old values and old perceptions.

So you look out into the world and you have these old perceptions and then suddenly you're presented with some new idea, new thought.

And you tell yourself, wait, this is what I believed all this time.

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