Hey, hey, everyone. Hoping everyone is good, hoping everyone is great. We are on the second part of attachment styles. And today we're going to talk about two, which are the secure attachment and the fearful avoiding attachment style. And this one is also known as the disorganized attachment style. Now I want to reiterate again that the purpose of learning these attachment styles is not

that we can label anyone to label yourself, to judge anyone, or to judge yourself, or, you know,

excuse any kind of harmful behavior. The purpose of this is just awareness. Because once you understand why you move the

way that you move, why certain things trigger you, why some relationships feel safe and others make

you panic, then you begin to understand yourself with more compassion instead of having criticism.

And when you also understand the people around you, it becomes very easy to stop taking everything so personally.

Because sometimes the way people love has very little to do with you and everything to do with what they learned in love or what it was supposed to feel like.

So I want to start off with the secure attachment.

Now, the secure attachment is considered the most healthiest attachment style.

And it's, you know, a person who is someone who is generally, you know, comfortable with closeness.

They provide and are also open to emotional

intimacy, vulnerability, and they are more likely independent. And for them, they don't panic

when someone loves them. And they don't panic when someone needs space. They just understand the

duality of what that looks like they don't know how to

give love without losing themselves in it and they know how to also receive love without distrusting it

so what it looks like in real love is or in real life is that a securely attached person

they're not the people that, you know, they don't

have it all together for sure, but they don't, they don't have insecurities. If they had wounds,

they have worked through them. They, you know, they also have, you know, moments of overthinking,

just like we do.

But they don't let it get them to the point where they're at a place in which it makes them panic.

They still have their bad days.

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