Hi everybody. Welcome to the women's dating and confidence podcast. My name is Amber, and today

we're going to be talking about uncomfortable conversations in dating and relationships.

So I wanted to bring this up for two reasons. One is I've been having a lot of uncomfortable conversations in my life recently and I've been inspired by those

conversations. And the second is with a lot of the women that I work with, with a lot of you who message me

on Instagram, there seems to be a common theme of the fear of risking the relationship or risking

the connection that you have with somebody and therefore going into people-pleasing behavior

or not having honest conversations or not being

willing to set a standard or to create a boundary. And so this is kind of exploring one aspect of that.

And it's one way that women tend to people please a lot in relationships and in dating and to not honor themselves.

And I want to tackle this specific aspect of it today.

So there tend to be like three main categories of uncomfortable conversations that we can have

in dating, but just in general in our relationships.

The first is disclosure. And that's just when you tell somebody something or you need to

discuss something that actually is nothing to do with them. So, for example, telling them about an

STD or telling them that you don't want kids or that you really do want kids or that

you want to get married or anything about you, your situation, your life that feels vulnerable

and uncomfortable to share and to have a conversation about. The second one is boundary

setting or expressing dissatisfaction with something that they did.

And this can feel really uncomfortable because we can feel really triggered in those situations.

So maybe they did something that just didn't quite sit right with you.

And it feels very uncomfortable to bring that up.

And a lot of times, especially for women, we question ourselves and we wonder if we have

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