Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star and master coach, Carla Lohan-Thyle.

Hello, so surprised, surprised. This is a bonus podcast. This is a recording of a conversation

that I had with Stacey Smith, who is an amazing business coach and she and I actually trained

together at our life coach training back in the day. So the reason that I asked Stacey to have

this conversation and that I'm releasing it as a podcast is that it's such a perfect follow-up

to my podcast on Compare and Despair. So I got a lot of emails from you guys so I know that

that podcast resonated with you. And one of the messages I got was from Stacey, who told me that while

she was listening to the episode, she realized something about herself and Compare and Despair.

And so we hopped on to have a conversation about Compare and Despair and how we both think about

each other. And I just think it's a really great example for you to see that even the people that

you might think have it together or look up to or worry that you can ever manage your mind as

well as they do, we coaches like our brains still have some nonsense and that's okay. It's just

part of the human condition and working on yourself just means learning to manage it.

Not becoming perfect. So we talk about Compare and Despair, we talk about why our brains like to

do this, we talk about how we deal with it. It's just a really honest, frank conversation. I think

you guys will enjoy. And the other reason I wanted to release it now is that the antidote to

Compare and Despair is confidence. Confidence in yourself is what makes you uninterested in

comparing yourself to other people. And it's not that you have to resist it. It just literally

stops happening as much. Like I used to constantly compare myself to other women and how they

looked and what size they were and where it was I in the size ranking, right, when I saw a lot of

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