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UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

UFYB 329: Greatest Hits: Loving vs. Being Loved and Which Feels Better

UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Kara Loewentheil

Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Education, Self-improvement, Philosophy, Society & Culture

4.65.5K Ratings

🗓️ 15 February 2024

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

You might already know this, but feeling loved doesn’t hinge on someone else loving you. Even if you grasp that external love can’t dictate your feelings, or recognize how societal conditioning shapes women’s views on love and dating, there may be hidden thoughts blocking you from accessing the emotions you crave. Tune in this week as I explore the distinction between loving and being loved, and which feels better. I’m sharing the fundamental socialization that has us assessing our relationships in unhelpful ways, and what happens when you switch your focus from being loved to loving.

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0:00.0

Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain, feminist self-help for everyone. Brought to you by the school of new feminist thought.

0:14.6

I'm your host Kara Loyuthile, Harvard lawyer turned life coach extraordinary, and I'm here to help

0:20.4

you get society's sexist messages out of your brain so you can be confident,

0:25.7

feel powerful, and live a life you won't regret when you die.

0:30.3

If you want to jumpstart that process, you need to grab my totally free guide to feeling less anxious and more empowered by rewiring your brain.

0:39.0

Just text your email to Plus 1, 347, 9,97, 1784 and use code word brain or go to UnFuck Your

0:49.1

Brain.com forward slash Brain. Now let's get to today's

0:55.0

get to today's episode.

1:00.0

Hello my friends, I am hard at work on a series for the podcast that I'm super

1:04.9

excited about called the Back to Basics series. But Back to Basics is a little bit

1:10.4

misleading because I'm gonna sort of start from the ground up and

1:14.6

teach the core concepts that you need to know in order to change your life by changing your

1:20.4

brain.

1:21.6

And I'm going to be doing it from the perspective of being eight years

1:24.4

into this work now having written my book and just having elevated every single

1:29.6

concept that I teach that forms the foundation of the work that we're all trying to do here with our

1:35.2

brains. So I'm super excited about that. Ironically, in some ways, before we get to the

1:39.8

basics, I want to revisit one of the most complex and sophisticated

1:44.3

podcast episodes that I have done in the past year or two.

1:48.6

And it's one that I think is sort of seems deceptively simple but if you really internalize it

1:54.6

it completely will change your life and that is my episode on loving versus

2:00.4

being loved I wrote about this mostly or I podcasted about this mostly in the context of romantic

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