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Now let's get to today's

today's episode.

Hello my friends this is going to be such a useful episode for all of us, myself included,

anytime I get to talk brains with Rachel Hart, who is my coaching ride or die, my platonic life soulmate and bestie is a good day.

And we are going to be talking about primarily drinking as the version of numbing that we're focusing on in this episode.

But I want to be really clear up front and we talk about this throughout the episode.

Everything we're talking about applies to any kind of activity or substance or habit that you use to try to numb out

negative emotions or distract or get away from negative thoughts that you don't want to

experience. So everybody

does this and it's human to do this and I am not a coach who kind of

pathologizes any numbing out.

But I do think it's important to have a conscious

and intentional relationship with your numbing out,

which is a funny way of saying it,

but I really think that's true.

There's a big difference between having no other tools and just depending on

numbing out as your only coping strategy and feeling out of control with it and

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