Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism,

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello, my chickens. So if I sound a little strange, I'm having really intense

allergies and I can't hear out of one of my ears. So it is a... sounds very weird

dear myself tock. But I'm not gonna second guess myself. I'm still gonna record

this podcast because I actually want to talk to you about second guessing and I

think that it's such an important topic and it's something that I see God happening

around me all the time. So let's talk about what happens when we second guess ourselves

and why that's such a problem. And I think that some of you are second guessing yourselves

all the time and not even realizing that that's happening. It's so subtle sometimes and

pervasive in ways that we don't even recognize. So we got to define it first because I think

that it's a term that we use and we sort of even may intuitively identify with and not

necessarily actually understand what we're saying. We're sort of not be able to define

it. We totally understand what we're saying, but not be able to define it. So the way that

I sort of define second guessing is it's when you are questioning yourself in a not helpful

way. And I want to preface this by saying that I'm gonna talk about the distinction between

kind of useful self questioning and not useful self questioning. So don't worry, I'm aware

of that concern. I am gonna talk about that. But when I think about second guessing, what

I mean is this sort of tendency to constantly have second thoughts about things, right, about

ourselves and what we're doing. So for instance, you have a thought and you immediately

start to question that thought. Like, well, I don't know if that thought is true and I don't

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