Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

All right, y'all, if I know you, my chickens,

and I feel like I do. I feel like I do know you at least I know some of you some of you some of you I know personally but a lot of you I know your brains and one of the things that I think so many of us struggle with is

second guessing ourselves. I see this all the time. It comes up in my own brain.

I cannot tell you how many times I have either made a decision

and then wanted to like pull my friends and colleagues to see if they thought it was the right decision.

Or I've been trying was the right decision.

Or I've been trying to make a decision

and I have wanted to post a 3,000 word essay

on this minor decision in my

in my mastermind slack to get all of their opinions or how often I just second-guess my own

perception of reality. It doesn't have to be related to a decision at all.

And I just second-guess my responses and how I'm acting and what I'm thinking and what I'm feeling.

And if I can make the choices I want to make.

And it's so incessant when you are

socialized as a woman to second-guess yourself and to think that you can't be

trusted in kind of any area of your life and that you need to crowdsource other people's

opinions and you still never feel certain. And it is such a waste of time and

energy and when I think about the resource of all of our time and energy and what we could be spending it on,

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