Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism,

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello, my chickens. So last night I was watching a movie called The Swimmers on Netflix. And

it's about this incredible kind of true story of two sisters who were swimmers, who were refugees

from Syria, who left Syria and traveled in very dangerous ways to Germany. And then eventually

their whole family was able to get out into escape Syria. But it's just an incredibly powerful film

about their journey and their swimming careers and sort of the complexity of the human and refugee

experience. And it was such a like fascinating thing to watch my brain because obviously movies are

created in such a way as to be emotionally moving. And there's also just inherent, you know,

emotionality to learning about and thinking about the experience of being a refugee or if any kind

of really life disrupting challenging hard experience that humans may have. And watching my brain,

it was like this sort of split screen in which in one half of my brain, I saw that sort of that

experience you have when you just are like, holy shit, none of my problems are really problems.

I mean, we all know on a sort of, you know, whether you call it spiritual or kind of thought work

or whatever level we know that what we decide our problems are problems and sometimes other people

would all agree with us and sometimes they wouldn't. But there's this sort of just that perspective

that you get from seeing an experience that is for many of us, not everybody. There are people

listening to this podcast who have been through this kind of thing. But certainly I have never,

let's just say I have never had to be refugee. I have never had to cross an ocean in a inflatable boat

hoping I don't drown to get to the next shore. I have never gotten through many of the things that

these people went through. And I could see this sort of one side of my brain just being like,

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