Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello, my chickens.

So last night I was watching a movie called The Swimmers on Netflix and is about this incredible kind of true story of two sisters who were swimmers who were swimmers who were refugees from Syria, who left Syria and

traveled in very dangerous ways to Germany and then you know eventually their whole family was able to get

out and to escape Syria but it's just an incredibly powerful film about their journey and their swimming careers and sort of the complexity of the

human and refugee experience.

And it was such a like fascinating thing to watch my brain because obviously movies are

created in such a way as to be emotionally moving and there's also just inherent you

know emotionality to learning about and thinking about the experience of being a refugee or of any kind of really life disrupting, challenging, hard experience that humans may have.

And watching my brain, it was like this sort of split screen in which in one half of my brain,

I saw that sort of, that experience you have when you just are like,

holy shit, none of my problems are really problems.

I mean, we all know on a sort of,

you know, whether you call it spiritual

or kind of thought work or whatever level,

we know that what we decide are our problems are

problems and sometimes other people would all agree with us and sometimes they

wouldn't. But there's this sort of just that perspective that you get from

seeing an experience that is for many of us,

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