UFYB 257: Social Conditioning, Religion, Men & Patriarchy: A Conversation with Danny and Lindsay Poelman
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 29 September 2022
⏱️ 49 minutes
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Summary
This week on the podcast I’m joined by one of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching students, Lindsay Poelman, and her husband, Danny, as we discuss what it’s like for men to recognize their own patriarchal socialization.
Tune in as we talk about how patriarchal conditioning is not a zero sum game, how patriarchy can be oppressive to people of all gender identities (not just women), and why the feeling of disempowerment in privileged white men can actually lead to positive change.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/257
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, |
| 0:14.0 | and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your |
| 0:19.3 | host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile. |
| 0:25.6 | And what you ought to know that I did not write any notes for what I'm about to say because I |
| 0:34.2 | really just wanted to turn on the microphone and even close my eyes and speak from the heart. |
| 0:40.2 | And I'm talking to any of you who are coaches, who are teachers, who are therapists, even, who are |
| 0:49.3 | people who are in some kind of service or care or help profession. Anyone who is working with |
| 0:58.8 | people's brains and trying to help them develop a different way of being in the world. This work, |
| 1:08.1 | my work, the work of dismantling social messaging and social oppression from the inside out, |
| 1:18.4 | I truly believe is going to change the world. And it's not that I'm going to change the world. |
| 1:24.8 | It's that we are all going to change the world. This is a collective project. This is not about |
| 1:33.2 | me. It's not something I could do alone. It's not something I know everything about. I also |
| 1:38.6 | am part of the collective that has been shaped by social messaging and that has deep programming |
| 1:44.4 | to do. And I am just one piece of the collective genius that lies inside of people who have been |
| 1:51.7 | marginalized and oppressed and dismissed and ignored for so much of history. And that is really what, |
| 2:00.1 | for me, this work is about. And I love doing that work directly with my students in the clutch. |
| 2:06.9 | And I love teaching coaches and teachers and therapists and anyone who is helping people |
| 2:14.1 | change the way they've been socialized to think. And so if you feel that you are part of this mission, |
| 2:20.7 | if you feel the pull of that vision, if you want to be part of this world changing adventure, |
| 2:30.0 | I want you to know that this is your chance to get started on it. We are now accepting applications |
| 2:36.6 | for the advanced certification and feminist coaching. This is where I teach other coaches, |
| 2:44.8 | teachers, helpers, counselors, people who are helping other people change their thinking to change |
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