Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism,

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Paura Lowenthal.

Hello my chickens, how are you? I am amazing. I always say that because it's always true.

But here's why it's always true. I was just coaching one of my clients about this last week,

and I was saying to her that our evaluation of our own mental or emotional state is an

optional thought. How we choose to categorize or characterize or describe our own mental

and emotional state. That description is not objective, it's not a circumstance, it's

an optional thought. So I might have a day filled with negative thoughts and emotions,

but during the day and at the end of the day I can choose whether to call that a bad day,

or just an average day, or an awesome day. See what I mean? I get to decide what to think

about my own experience and my own thoughts and feelings. It's not just true that a day

when you have negative thoughts and feelings is a bad day. Like that's not objective. That's

a decision to describe it that way. That bad means I had negative thoughts and feelings. What if

when you have negative thoughts and feelings, that's an awesome day because you got to learn about

yourself or become more resilient or just because you know the way I think about it is like

any day that I'm alive, I have decided to think is awesome because it's part of the human experience

and I'm all in on the human experience even when it sucks. This is what's so different,

this is not like spiritual bypassing or pretending life always feels awesome. Know what I'm seeing

is sometimes life feels terrible, but I can still choose to believe that I am doing amazing

because I am here having a human experience, part of which is supposed to feel terrible.

I can decide to describe that reality that I'm a human having negative thoughts and feelings

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