Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism,

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Okay, my chicken's sometimes, you know, a conversation is so nice, you need to have it twice.

So I have been on Shanie Silver's podcast twice, and it is high time that she was here.

Shanie is a friend of mine who I met when I went on her podcast. That's how I make friends

these days. And she is a, you know, what you would call yourself like a single woman's

guide to happiness extraordinaire, something like that. I'll let her introduce herself.

She's an author, which is the most primary reason she's here right now. She has a new book

out all about, I'm going to just the vagus summary embracing your singlehood, not waiting

for a partner to live your life. She has very strong thoughts about online dating, which

we will definitely discuss because I'm actually a fan of online dating. So we will get into

all of that. Shanie, anything in that, let's call, delightfully rambling introduction that

you want to add about yourself. I mean, my favorite introductions are the ones that my friends

give me because we all like hearing about ourselves, and I want to know what my friends think

of me. But you nailed it. I mean, I'm an author and a podcaster, and I'm an advocate for

a happy singlehood. I think that's the way I like to describe it these days. I think

there's too much push pull and separation in us versus them when it comes to being happily

single and contentedly single and confidently single versus being on the hunt or wanting

a relationship. I like to think that happy singlehood and wanting a relationship can coexist

beautifully. I know they can coexist because that's how I live every day. And I've seen

too much separation between feeling good about your singlehood, enjoying it, treasuring it,

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