Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain, the only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach,

Tara Lowenthal. Hello, my chickens. I'm sure some of you have seen this, but one of my favorite

kind of, I don't even know if it's a meme, but like Instagram images that goes around

often is this sort of text drawing from, I think Emily McDowell's her name, but it basically

says like, we call itself development because if we called it like, you're going to feel

like you're dying all the time, nobody would do it. And that is how it feels sometimes.

Sometimes it just really feels like you are the sort of experience of like confronting

your own hurt parts and wounds and traumas and also your ego and your more primitive instincts

and your dysfunction and sort of all of those things while also learning to love yourself

as perfectly imperfect and still deserving of compassion and care and support no matter

what is going on in your brain. It's a lot. It is not a joke and it often feels like dying.

But I've just been thinking about how honestly the main thing that is important is just

continuing to be committed to that process. I was having a conversation with somebody

and they were like, you know, it's like very admirable, but kind of overwhelming like

how self-aware you are. Please, I have my own blind spots, but what they really meant

was not like, necessarily how accurately so far where I am because we all have blind spots,

but just like how much time I spend thinking about my own process and experience and like,

trying to change things. And I was like, yeah, well, you know, I was like, it's not really

like there's another option, you know, I like what else would I do just sort of rampage

around the world with an unexamined mind just sort of like playing out my patterns on

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