Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello, my chickens. How are we all doing? I have lost all sense of time here in 2021. Is

it August? Is it September? Is it March? Is it actually 2023? I really have no idea. I

don't know what's going on. One of the reasons that I have sort of lost all

track of time is that I have been spending quite a lot of time working through all the

things that have come up for me as I have been deepening and sort of solidifying, although

that's a weird word to use for an emotion. One of the most important relationships in my

life. And I have been working through a lot of what comes up around becoming intimate

with a new person, learning how to navigate conflicts, learning how to be vulnerable, but

all while keeping responsibility for managing our minds. And it just made me think quite

a lot about this episode that I had recorded a couple of years ago that I want to share

again with you here all about vulnerability and intimacy because I think that these are

topics that are kind of huge in the self-help, self-development world for reasons that makes

sense. But they're often framed in a kind of disempowering way like vulnerability is

giving somebody else the power to hurt you and to cause negative feelings in you. But

of course, we don't believe that here at, fuck your brain world. We don't believe that

other people cause your feelings. And at the same time, intimacy is often conceptualized

as sort of sharing your wounds with someone, giving them the power to hurt you or sharing

all the terrible things you think have happened to you. Like there's just this sort of sense

often with vulnerability and intimacy that it's about like sharing your wounded parts

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