Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain, the only podcast teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach,

Carla, Low and Thile.

Hello, my flock.

So today we are talking about a feeling that I doubt the chickens have, but that humans

definitely have a lot.

And in fact, it's been called the most human emotion.

And that is shame.

So shame is one of the emotions that we feel the most often, but we understand the least.

At the same time, it's an emotion that shapes and drives so much of our behavior, both

when we are feeling it and when we are resisting feeling it.

When we are feeling ashamed, we blame ourselves and we withdraw.

But we're also so averse to feeling shame that we will often turn it into anger and

lash out at other people to try to avoid lashing out at ourselves, which of course doesn't

work.

So shame creates a lot of conflict and distress, both with ourselves and with other people.

I was looking up the word shame, the origins, which is something I like to do when I'm writing

about an emotion for the first time or for the podcast.

And the word shame is thought to come from an older, proto-indo-European word.

So there's a theorized language that was proto-indo-European language, spelled P-I-E, that is sort

of thought to be potentially the linguistic precursor to all of the European or most

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