Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello, my chicken. This is a Grace hits episode, but I actually have like a little additional

bonus teaching that I want to tell you guys about. So this is an experience that I had

pretty recently, which is that I had kind of decided that I've been sort of thinking

about whether I want to explain this with the details or without just in terms of what's

going to be better teaching for you. But I think maybe the details make sense. So I turned

40 last month and in April, whatever your listening to this is, you may be listening to it

anytime. I turned 40 in April of 2021 and leading up to my birthday, I had sort of made

some plans and then some of the plans changed. I ended up having an amazing party with friends

and family who were able to be vaccinated and we had like a gorgeous hotel suite outside

in the penthouse suite of this hotel in Williamsburg. Those amazing. So that was awesome. And

I had made some plans for the day of my actual birthday and then those fell through. And

I noticed that my brain got very kind of fixated on like what I was going to do with my

birthday, who was like, and hang out with as though it would be sad to be alone on my

birthday. That was my brain's thought. So being a life coach, I was like, okay, if I'm

trying to avoid this thing, then I should probably do it on purpose. Like that's how

the brain works. If my brain thinks that I shouldn't be alone on my birthday, then probably

I should be alone on my birthday and like see what I learn. So I decided to like lean

into that. I booked this Airbnb upstate. I was like, all right, I'm in my birthday

alone, birthday isolation. And then various things started happening. Like my friend

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