Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello my chickens. So today we are doing another listener Q&A episode and we're talking

all about relationships. So if you've missed the previous couple of episodes in this series,

some of the most frequently asked questions I get are about what it's like to me in the

clutch and why it's any different from just listening to the podcast. So one of the things

that we have in the clutch that we do not have on the podcast is the ability for you to

ask questions and get coaching on what's going on with you, which is obviously totally

different. And so in the clutch, we have both the ability for you to ask your questions

now and get answers, but we also have a huge resource library of all the questions that

people have basically ever asked getting answered, which often totally includes the answer

to your question. Although again, of course, if it doesn't, you can ask your question and

get an answer. So we have almost a hundred bonus private podcast episodes in the clutch

that are usually only available in the clutch. And why I have answered questions from members

of the community. So we are going to be sharing some excerpts of those focusing on kind

of common themes and questions over a few different podcast episodes. And so today we

are talking about relationship questions, right? This is something so many of us struggle

because people just, well, do what we want them to do. They didn't do what we wanted in

the past. They're not doing what we want now. They're not going to do what we want in

the future. I like to bring a darling back because it just always reminds me how much of

my own drama about relationships comes from trying to control other people who I can't

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