I think this is an interesting one.

Can men say no to casual sex? Yeah, of course. I don't like when it's like, can men, women? I don't know. Well, I think that's the point. I think that's why I chose it. I think we have to get out of this mindset of men are like this and women are like this because all of it's a lie. Like, we've been so much in nonsense around men are this way, women are

this way when so much of it is actually socialized, right? Like so much of like men and this

myth around men and sexuality and sexual prowess and all these things. So much of that has to

do with the men's version of the choose me wound. Like it's what makes them lovable. It's what makes them look good in the eyes of society. And so it's what they do, right? It's not actually about something internal for them. And it's the same for women. And so I just wanted to bring this one up as an example of, I think, how important it is for us to question the assumptions that we have around men and women and question where they come

from, right?

Yeah.

I was just talking to a client literally 20 minutes ago.

We were talking about sex, intimacy.

She's at a point in her life where she's explored your sexual.

Her relationship with self, I mean, she has, you know, self-care morning. She

masturbates every day. She does all these things very, like, actively feeding her libido,

fantasies, all that. And, uh, she thought, I wonder if I should, because she's single, she's not

in a relationship. And she's like, man, I thought the other day, what if I just get like a male

escort? And i was like

why not i'm john kim a licensed therapist who used to be a miserable fuck before going on a

hero's journey and turning expired relationships into revelations i use my story to help others

come with you instead of at you,

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because self-help doesn't have to be polished or complicated, just honest.

Welcome to another episode of In Bed with Therapists.

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