Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

Two relationship game changers and they're probably not what you think they are.

I love simplicity and I love sustainability.

I find that things that are overwhelming, complicated, things like, I don't know,

dense theories that we, that sound amazing or that look great on paper that we

try to actually then execute always fall short right so I like really simple things that can

be sustainable and I think with relationships

It's all about the the simple things that we do daily not necessarily

Giant you know, giant changes that can possibly be overwhelming or giant changes that we want to make but they're so big like that mountain is so steep that we never end up climbing it right I'm not saying the giant changes aren't

important of course they're important, but sometimes it's the little things that add up over time that creates huge changes, right? So here are two game changers and they're

simple and they're fun. Okay, so the first one is, I call it five minutes and it's something that I've been practicing

for a long time in a lot of my relationships.

It's basically five minutes, and hopefully every day,

but five minutes of laying down,

you keep your clothes on, but five minutes of laying down

with your partner where you put everything aside,

and for those five minutes, it could be a conversation,

it could be, you know, some kind of holding each other,

it could be an expression, whether it's physical or verbal, but it is a connection, right? It's five minutes of uninterrupted time and hopefully it's like during the day or if you guys don't

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