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Therapist Uncensored Podcast

TU155: Speakably Sexy – Communicating to Make Sex Hotter and Relationships More Alive with Dr. Susan Ansorge REPLAY

Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP & Ann Kelley PhD

Social Sciences, Society & Culture, Science, Education, Self-improvement, Relationships

4.71.5K Ratings

🗓️ 31 August 2021

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

What makes the ins and outs of sexuality so hard to talk about? We’re diving into it in this replay episode, so get ready. We’re talking about all things sex and overcoming the fears of communicating about it. It turns out if couples do talk about sex, the conversation often only covers the frequency, instead of the other important aspects like pleasure (or the lack thereof), fantasies (or the lack thereof), desires (or the lack thereof),thoughts and feelings towards intimacy, and even the basic mechanics as well. Learn more about how to have these understandably anxiety-inducing conversations, and overcome the difficulties of opening up to yourself and your sexual partner with Dr. Ann Kelley, and Dr. Susan Ansorage.

Dr. Susan Ansorge is a practicing psychologist in Austin, TX. Her interest, training and experience in working with sexual issues began during her tenure as a staff psychologist at the UT Counseling and Mental Health Center, and has continued through her 17 years of private practice with individuals and couples. Dr. Ansorge was also member of the Austin Women’s Psychotherapy Project, bringing leaders in the field of gender-aware Psychotherapy to the Austin area, as well as presenting locally and nationally on topics in the areas of gender and sexuality as they relate to psychotherapy. Her written work has appeared in the National Center for PTSD Quarterly.

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0:00.0

Sarah, where's the car? It's gone. It's not gone. It's with Fixter. Since you never

0:04.4

got round to MOTing it, I took care of it. Fixed up? Fixed is great. They pick up your

0:09.0

car, drive it to the garage, handle the MOT, then drive it straight back to you. Sounds

0:12.6

expensive? Don't worry. They negotiate their prices with their partner

0:15.6

garages and the car pickup services included. So since that's all handled, how about you

0:19.6

take a look at that leaky tab or do you need me to fix that too? For easy car maintenance,

0:23.7

head to fixter.co.uk. We'll pick up your car and take care of all the rest. Fixed up

0:28.8

and you're back on track. You know, some of the things that I've found helpful with couples is,

0:34.0

sometimes taking the conversation away from the actual sexual interaction. So when you're

0:40.5

in bed together naked is such a vulnerable time. You don't always want to bring up. There are

0:46.1

some things that like if you're really going to go for doing kind of more of say like a guided

0:52.1

experience where you really help someone learn how to touch you in the ways that you want to be

0:57.3

touched or you know things like that that are more experiential. You may need to have it be in

1:03.0

that setting, but oftentimes the initial bringing up of you know what you'd like to be different

1:10.0

is more successful when it's not right in the moment. You know when it's because that can feel

1:14.4

very shaming and again people are very vulnerable. Therapist Uncensored brings you decades of

1:21.7

experience with interpersonal psychotherapy, relational neuroscience, modern attachment,

1:26.2

and anything else they think will be helpful in healing humans. Now hear your co-host Dr. Ankelli

1:31.5

and Sue Marriott. Hi, this is therapist Uncensored Editor Jack Anderson. Sue and Anne are taking

1:43.4

a quick break for September, but they'll be back in October with the brand new season.

1:47.2

In the meantime, they've picked out some standout episodes from the past that are definitely

1:51.5

worth hearing again. Hope you enjoy. I'm here with a special guest today. I think you all will

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